why not work them?
But their contesting hobby prevents me from enjoying mine.
Perhaps you should acquaint yourself with the bandswitch/VFO/mode switch your rig most likely has. If others contesting "prevents" you from enjoying your time on the air, that is solely because you choose to let it do so.
What if I was tuning on top of them with 1500W constantly? They wouldn't like it, right?
Actually, that happens a lot...and instead of whining, contesters deal with it. And it's often not as effective as the intentional-QRMers believe it is either, BTW. Not to mention that intentional QRM is an illegal act in the US, while contesting is not.
It's like some people who when not driving are the nicest human beings; put them in a car, they become assholes.
Or get internet access and post in forums.
No, I won't work them, because I think contests are weird and stupid, and that's my right.
Obviously, it is your right. To me, that choice seems weird and stupid - almost as much as posting in an amateur radio forum without posting one's callsign: QRA?
But I don't bother any of them on the air because it's illegal, and why bother. I wish they would return the same courtesy to me.
What you don't understand is that the same courtesy is being extended to you. No contester I know is going to start calling on top of an existing QSO - if he hears it. The problem is, because of QRP and/or poor antennas or condx, a station may not be heard. Now, if you expect 14.060 +/- to remain unused until some QRP operator decides to come along and occupy the frequency, your expectations are unrealistic. Contesters don't expect to have any frequencies reserved for them, and in fact are generally discriminated against because the "WARC" bands are not used for contesting. But, you know what, I've never heard a contester complain about that because they realize there are people who don't enjoy that mode of operation and are happy keep those frequencies contest free so that the "anti-contesters" have a place to escape to.
I can't tell you how many times (when I used to operate phone and QRO) this scenario would play out: I tune a band during a contest looking for someplace to call CQ and find an apparently clear frequency. I ask (multiple times) if the frequency is occupied, with no response. Start CQing - and often work a station or two - and finally someone will come on and say "Fred, some contester is calling on top of you" or "AA4GA, the frequency is busy". I, and most contesters, would normally move on, but come on! Why did you not respond when I inquired? From where I sit, much of the unpleasantness non-contesters find during contests is self-inflicted!
Which group appears to be the most reasonable?
Perhaps I'm an odd duck, because I'm both a contester and a QRPer, but I don't see a problem with coexistence at all.