It seems that some field day activities are meant just for certain, select hams.  Outsiders need not apply.  While I was told that hams used field day to showcase their hobby and 'brotherhood', it seems to be not so, at least as far as I've seen.

A comment made to one long time ham this past field day at a certain site where I was invited by him to experience my first one (no, I will NOT say where) seems to be contrary to the general acclaimed 'brotherhood' of hams.  The comment made was to the effect of 'Where would you go for field day if you didn't come here?  Nobody else will put up with you.'  That person, from what I saw, never offended anyone and just seemed to be content with help out in setting up and with the other 'gofer' things that need to be done.  We left shortly after the other hams started talking over their radios.

After that, I wonder if it's even worth it pursuing my license at all.  If ham radio is so cliqueish that that is what I can expect, well, maybe I don't want to get involved in it at all, or is it that we just picked the wrong site to visit?