But, best of all, get the ARRL Antenna book - any edition from the last few decades!"buy the 260 foot wire antenna from dx engineering."
I generally recommend that people BUILD wire antennas out of whatever is available. However, looking at the DXE website and thinking about the price of copper these days, the price is right. And you get feedline and insulators, too.
but she feels that it will cause the house and the trees to get stuck by lightning.
No, simply no. But it could bring electricity into your shack/home, in the event of a direct strike or "splash-over." All outdoor antennas should therefore be grounded when not in use.how to ground it?
1. Select a ground. Either ONE ground point for ALL stuff in your house; rado stuff, phone elctric, cable everything. Multiple grounds make electricity flow all over your house and do very bad things in event of a hit.
2. An outside ground rod for the antenna ONLY, connected when the antenna is not in use. An 8-foot rod pounded in outside the entry point for the antenna is best. Use a DPDT knife switch to ground the feedline when the antenna is not in use. Many of us "cheat" and place this inside at the entry point. An even cheaper way is to put BIG alligator clips on the end of your feedline. These are attached to your antenna tuner when you are on the air, and to the ground otherwise.
Congratulations on your choice of a tuned-feeder dipole:still the best all-band HF antenna for most settings. AND WELCOME to ham radio. May your next 49 years be as much fun as mine have been!