Perhaps, instead of choosing to live in a particular area where the mantra of "government is bad" prevails, and HOA's abound; you should choose to live in an area where that is not the case. "
Sometime having to earn a living and support a family along with ones job training have a large bearing on just where one can choose to live. If you are independently wealthy, choices are no problem. If on the other hand you have to work consistantly to proviede for you and your family then choice of where to live is somewhat constrained.
Let's see. My choices are live in an area where I can reasonably expect to find work or go on assistance. Live close enough to my work that my daily fuel consumption doesn't consume a significant portion of my income, or be in circumstances similar to not working with none of the benefits. Live in an area where the distance, roads, and traffic allow a reasonable commute time, or don't have time left for anything but work and commute with just a little time left over to eat, sleep, and so on. Once all these choices have been made, I may or may not have the luxury of choosing whether or not to live in an antenna restricted zone.
Reasonable accomodation is not possible in the present social and govermental contexts as it is nearly impossible to find "reasonable" people. "Being reasonable" like "compromise" is now code speak for do it my way or else. Look at our leadership examples.
So I fear that even if Resonable Accomodation is mandated, there will be a bumpy road on the way to reason.
Sounds like you need to move to a new region, where HOA's are not common. I can suggest a list of properties for you, if you like. Even a real estate agent who can find such a property for you.