10. All contacts must be made using call signs issued to the same station licensee. Contacts made by an operator other than the licensee must be made from a station owned and usually operated by the licensee, and must be made in accordance with the regulations governing the license grant. Contacts may be made from other stations provided they are personally made by the licensee. The intent of this rule is to prohibit credit for contacts made for you by another operator from another location. You may combine confirmations from several call signs held for credit to one DXCC award, as long as the provisions of Rule 9 are met. Contacts made from club stations using a club call sign may not be used for credit to an individual's DXCC.
Station licensee. If I am N4UFO, the station at my HOME is also N4UFO. It says, it is okay if another ham comes to MY house and operates AS N4UFO using MY equipment and in accordance with MY license.
Then it says... if 'I' go to another station, other than my home station and make contacts myself, that is also okay.
Next it says, I can use my AC5DK contacts (old call) along with my N4UFO contacts towards my DXCC.
Lastly, I cannot use my contacts from club station W5YM when I signed AS W5YM. They would only count if I signed as AC5DK/N4UFO.
11. Issues concerning remotely controlled operating and DXCC are best dealt with by each individual carefully considering the ethical limits that he/she will accept for his/her DXCC and other operating awards. As the premier operating award in Amateur Radio, DXCC draws intense scrutiny from its participants. As DX chasers climb up the Standings there will be increased attention given to these achievements and the owner of these achievements needs to be comfortable standing behind his/her award and numbers. Peer attention has always been a part of awards chasing, of course, but in these times with so many awards and so many players it is more important than ever to 'play the game' ethically.
Technological advances, while welcome, also add to the difficulty in defining rules for DXCC, but the intent of the rules is what is important. It is never OK to remotely use a station outside of the 'home DXCC entity' to add to the home-entity DXCC totals -- just as it is never OK for you to ask someone else at another station in another place to make QSOs for you. Remotely controlled stations must be properly licensed if they are to count for DXCC. It will continue to be up to the operator to decide what types of legal remote control operating he/she will use (if any) to contribute to an operating award.
This latter paragraph says, as a US Licensee, I cannot use a remote station outside the USA for credit... nor can I ask another ham to use
HIS STATION or ANY STATION other than mine and MY CALLSIGN to make a DX contact for me. Furthermore, any station that I use as a remote station belonging to me must abide by all rules & regs.
To address your particular objection: "it is never OK for you to ask
someone else at another station in another place to make QSOs for you" - BUT it is okay to ask someone else at YOUR STATION to make QSOs for you.
NOWHERE DOES IT SAY... that I cannot ask my ham buddy to go over to my house and work me FROM MY HOUSE with MY CALLSIGN while I am operating on a DXpedition. (It says I can't ask him to work me with my callsign from HIS house with HIS station or any other station besides mine for me to get credit.)
This has been going on for years with HF DXpeditions and I personally know that it has been legitimately used by VUCC rovers to get grid credit for their home station. That said, 'I' have never asked people to operate my station (and did not) when I went to very rare grids in the Nevada desert in 2016. I waited until someone else went a few years later to earn my Gridmaster Award (satellite equivalent of Fred Fish on 6m). But that was my
choice. -- Nothing in the rules says that I could not do that.
If you understood the person at the ARRL DXCC desk to say that someone on a DXpedition cannot have a buddy go operate his home station for DXCC credit, either you did not understand them correctly or they are mistaken. If I knew how to tell you to get in direct touch with him, I'd tell you to ask K5UR.
https://www.arrl.org/president Because I have heard him explain things at many a hamfest/convention and he could explain it to you now.
To quote Forrest Gump, "That's all I have to say about that."