Set your goals to what is achievable.
A lot of very excellent hams never make #1 Honor Roll. That takes a lot of things falling into place that just doesn't happen for everyone.
I was doing dumb stuff like looking for work and moving while Glorioso was on. A lot of us have stories like that, about the one that got away because of travel, work, even illness. If you aren't able to be at the rig for maybe 10 or 20 selected weeks of your life, and I mean every one of those weeks, not just most of them, you probably miss out. OK, that's life. What's next?
Reset your sights. Try "mere" Honor Roll. DXCC 2000. 5BWAZ. There's plenty to do that doesn't require one to be chained to the rig for life and still have "something happen" and you miss it.
In fact, set your sights on the immediate next goal. If that is 5BDXCC, then work it. Not everyone does, you know. Put one achievable accomplishment after another and the total you will amass might well still be more than you might now expect. There is always room for positive surprises as well as the negative ones.