Consider the counter question. Why are men interested in ham radio? Obviously, there are lots of very different reasons OM pursue ham radio.
Why anyone chooses to participate in an activity or not is the payoff. This applies to both genders. If Ham radio doesn't appeal to someone it is because there is no perceived benefit either personally or socially. I didn't get involved in Ham radio for social reasons. I did it because of the intrigue of radio. However, I have made some good friends anyway I'd never have met otherwise.
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"...misfit, beer-bellied, unshaven, poorly dressed, messy-haired..."
You left out "smelly."
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OK, but seriously, to find out why so few of the hams are women, we have to modify the question.
Many (if not nearly all) men make the mistake of thinking women think like we do. I do not believe there is an answer to the general question, "why aren't more 'women' hams?"
It is better asked as a question to an individual woman. If you want to know why a specific woman is not interested in Ham radio, you should ask her, an individual.
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Now let's all "get in touch with our feelings" and "share our experiences" about ham radio.
<say that phrase at a ham club meeting and see what happens!!!! I'd buy tickets to watch that!>
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