The XR-5 weighs 56 pounds, the 3-el SteppIR weighs 45 pounds. Wind surface area for the XR-5 is 8.5 sqft, for the SteppIR the wind load is 6 sqft. The 3-el SteppIR will outperform the XR-5 easily, since the F12 is basically a 2-el Yagi. The Steppir will be easier on your tower. I have the same problem as you, and am trying to decide between the 3-el SteppIR and Optibeam OB9-5. There seems to be no good reason not to get the SteppIR IMHO. 73